Abraham Lincoln Was No Nelson Mandela

"He no longer belongs to us. He now belongs to the ages.",  Secretary of War during the Lincoln Administration, Edwin Stanton said while speaking about the death of President Lincoln. Yesterday, President Obama said the same words when speaking about the death of Nelson Mandela. I'm sorry but I'm repulsed by the idea that he would even attempt to draw a parallel between the two men by using the same quote.

He is utterly obsessed with Lincoln. This obsession must be driven by the fact that Lincoln had a fervor for the Constitution just as he does. However, I think the President forgets that the Constitution during Lincoln's era included a fugitive slave clause and the three-fifths clause. He only "freed" the slaves to undermine the Confederacy and increase manpower through ex-slaves who fought for the Union (some 200,000 men). Furthermore, the Emancipation Proclamation didn't even "free" all slaves.  It didn't apply to border slave states like like Delaware, Maryland, Kentucky and Missouri because they were all loyal to the Union. He also exempted certain parts of the Confederacy that had already come under Union control, hoping that the Whites in those areas would see that as a favor and become loyal to the Union as well. He was not an abolitionist, although he thought slavery was morally wrong.

Unlike Mandela, Lincoln did not believe that Blacks and Whites should have the same rights. In fact, he said, “I will say then that I am not, nor ever have been, in favor of bringing about in any way the social and political equality of the white and black races.” Then went on to say that he opposed blacks having the right to vote, to serve on juries, to hold office and to intermarry with whites. What he did believe was that, like all men, blacks had the right to improve their condition in society and to enjoy the fruits of their labor. In this way they were equal to white men, and for this reason slavery was inherently unjust.

So it irritates me to no end that this President can be so out of touch and disconnected that he would have the audacity to use the same quote that was used in reference to Lincoln's passing, while speaking about the passing of a great man like Nelson Mandela. I've tried to remain loyal and supportive of President Obama, but this guy really needs to get his head out of his ass.

Well, that's my take on it. What's yours?

The Homework Club

Last week my two daughters came home with 4 more kids in tow. When I asked why all of these children had followed us home from the bus stop they told me, "Well, we've started a Homework Club daddy!" So, I went along with it. I figured I could help the other kids do their homework along with mine seeing that I never really have any trouble when it comes to my daughters doing their homework.

So, it's Day 6 of the Homework Club and I'm at a loss for words. Either the system and/or the parents are failing our children, the boys in particular. When they come in, my girls get to work and need very little, if any help at all. I'm not saying that to brag, just for comparison. My neighbor's daughter comes in and does her work pretty independently as well. Except she's a bit of a "know it all" and tries to finish before everyone else only to have me go back over it and point out several mistakes that she's made. But once I get her to slow down, she's good. But the boys...Oh! My! GOD!!!! Please know that this isn't to put these kids down, but I just feel like I need to share this because I'm at a crossroads.

I have a 3rd grader who can't spell four letter words like, from, what, this, make, etc... When I say he can't do it I mean what he writes down when asked to spell these words is not even close to the actual word. He wrote "wasi" and "farati" for "what" and "from". There is a list of 10 words and those were the closest he got to being correct because he actually used the right letter to start the words. Now, I know many highly educated men and women who are terrible spellers, but they usually spell things phonetically even if they are incorrect.  Boys are usually good at math, at least early on they are. But, out of 20 addition and subtraction problems using only single digit numbers, he answered 2 correctly and they were 2+1 and 1+2. It has been known for a while now that prison corporations use data from third grade reading and math assessments to determine where they will need to build their prisons in the future. I can only wonder why he has been allowed to make it to the 3rd grade with such limited learning.

Then, there's his little brother who is in 1st grade and cannot formulate a sentence using the words, "at", "in", "ran", "dad", etc... Notice, I didn't say write a sentence, I'm talking about just coming up with one like, "I am AT the store." My 1st grade daughter on the other hand, comes up with and writes her own sentences, so I spend my time trying to help him because she knows what to do. Since he doesn't know how to spell the words he wants to use in his sentences after he finally comes up with them, I write the sentences down for him and have him copy them onto his paper. I would have made him write the sentences himself but after he wrote 5 straight sentences that didn't contain a vowel, I knew that wasn't an option. He really struggles just to copy the sentences down because he still has trouble just writing the letters freehand. He seems to have a better grasp on math though.

Finally, there's a little boy who is in kindergarten. His homework consists of writing his name, the alphabet, and numbers 1 through 10. He just sits there and scribbles on the paper until I make him some traceable worksheets to follow because he can't write his letters freehand. However, he knows everything there is to know about a Nintendo DS. The two 3-year-old boys that I homeschool everyday can write letters and numbers after they practice by tracing them first.

One thing that all these boys have in common, with the exception of the 3-year-olds, is that their behavior charts from school are terrible. The charts use the colors from a traffic light to indicate the child's behavior that day; green means good, yellow means they had a few issues that needed to be addressed that day, and red means they were off the chain. They each usually have yellow or red on their behavior charts. I'm not sure if their lack of understanding the grade level concepts comes from the behavioral issues or if the behavioral issues stem from their lack of understanding the concepts.

At the end of each Homework Club session, I give their parents a report on what they had for homework and how they did on it. I let them know if they understood the work or if they need more practice. But shortly after they go inside, they are back outside playing, even on the days that I tell their parents that they need more practice. I'm starting to ask myself, "If they don't care, why should I?" I really don't want to give up on these boys, but when I allowed my daughters to start their Homework Club, I had no idea how poorly these boys were performing in school. In retrospect, I guess that's why their parents were in such a hurry to send them over. These boys are all well below grade level and I don't know if that's the system's fault, their parents' fault, or a combination of the two. I want to continue helping them, but I think I may have bitten off more than I can chew. Their parents are my neighbors and I don't want to offend them, but a hard conversation needs to be had and it needs to be had pronto!

What should I do? Should I just discontinue the Homework Club and tell the parents again that their children need more help than I can provide? Should I just continue to do the Homework Club and just keep giving the parents the reports and let them decide to handle things the way they see fit?

Why I Wasn't Offended By The 'Harriet Tubman Sextape'

OK, alright I get it.  The Trayvon Martin case has brought about a new sense of awareness for Black people across the country and race matters aren’t being taken as lightly as they had been in the past. Some people would say that we finally woke up. But, does that mean we can’t laugh anymore? Does that mean that comedians must now censor their material so as not to offend the newly awakened Black person? I mean, this isn't the first time a comedian or a comedy sketch has spoofed slavery. Why now is this such a big deal?

Did I find it funny? Meh, not really. But that’s because the jokes were telegraphed, meaning I could see the punchline coming, I knew exactly where they were going with it. So to me, it wasn’t really funny. But I didn’t necessarily find it offensive either. Over the years several well known comedians have spoofed slavery and made light of black stereotypes without any backlash. Some comedians have literally made a living off of talking about how stereotypical black folks do things.

Steve Harvey and Nephew Tommy have a regularly running bit, or at least the last time I was a listener of his show they did, where they both play slave characters and make a mockery of slavery and not a single ounce of backlash has made it to the mainstream and become a large public outcry. Hell, we've done it on The Green Chimp Show where we have spoken in a slave-like manner with what we perceived to be slave vernacular. Maybe it shouldn't have been done, but the reason that they did it and thought it was going to be funny was because of all the other times it’s been done and people laughed at it.

People are saying that it endorses “rape culture” but in the same breath will tell their daughters that a wet coochie and a dry purse don’t match. You didn’t see a rape take place in the video although the actress portraying Harriet did allude to it. What you saw was something that Black women and women of other races alike have championed for years and that’s use what you got to get what you want. She was using her feminine wiles, if you will, to manipulate “massah” into allowing her to start the Underground Railroad. Now was it historically accurate? Of course not! But is that a requirement for comedy? Does a comedy sketch have to be historically accurate? Does a movie that is set during the time of slavery have to be historically accurate? If so, then why didn’t D’Jango get this much backlash for portraying a goddamn slave cowboy who single handedly took down an entire plantation to rescue the love of his life? Hell, Roots wasn’t even as historically accurate as it could have or perhaps should have been. Many of its scenes were watered down and romanticized so that the viewing public could actually stomach it. So is slavery a taboo subject to spoof? Because it hasn’t been until now. I understand that we want to preserve the integrity of what happened during slavery and we don’t want anyone discounting it and the horrendous acts that occurred during that time, but do we really need to be focusing our energy and efforts on that as much as we need to be focusing on what is happening to us right now today? As far as we all know, Harriet Tubman never willingly had sex with a white slave owner, and given the fact that she and all white slave owners are dead, she never will. But what is happening and will continue to happen unless we take action is the slaughter and criminalization of our young Black men. Be honest, when is the last time you’ve sat down with a young person or any person for that matter and had a real discussion about slavery and the impact that it still has on us today? I’m not talking about telling a kid that white people treated Black people badly and made them do all their work for free. I’m talking about something meaningful that could make them see just how deeply slavery has affected Black people. And where the hell was all this outrage when Texas was changing the definition of slavery in its textbooks?

Let’s not be fooled, this video did not sway anyone one way or the other who had already felt a certain way about Black folks or slavery. We have bigger fish to fry.

Let’s break this down, because there is some comedic and intellectual value to the video. First of all, it is set in 1851 and the guy has a video camera. So that disarmed it for me right there and allowed me to see it as an attempt at comedy. Not only were there no video cameras at the time, but him making a sextape pokes fun at this era where sextapes of famous people or infamous people are always leaking. Then in his very first exchange with Harriet, the man with the camera says something very profound that I think was lost on a lot of people because they went into watching the video already anticipating something offensive. But what he said was, “I’s tired of all this unpaid, highly skilled labor that I’s put forth, just so our future children can have no benefits and still have to deal with racial inequalities 162 years later.” In that one sentence he dispels the myth that all slaves did was plow the field and pick cotton and touches on the reality of Black folks today. Not all slave labor was just unskilled labor that just anyone could do. Slaves were used for more than just toting that barge or bailing that hay. They were carpenters, blacksmiths, silversmiths, and quite ironically locksmiths. They were also engineers and inventors but most would never be given credit for their inventions because a white man would steal them and claim them as their own. In the last part of the sentence he says, “just so our future children can have no benefits and still have to deal with racial inequalities 162 years later.” Now if you can’t see the profundity in that then I don’t know what else to tell you. Because 162 years after the time this video was set which was 1851, is 2013 and aren’t we still dealing with racial inequalities? So let’s not totally discredit the video, that one exchange in my opinion says that the intent wasn’t to be disrespectful. It was an attempt at humor which ended up amounting to coonery and buffoonery not unlike any of the other stuff that we see on TV that has a Black cast (i.e. Reality Shows). Where is the outrage for reality shows that cast aspersions on Black people? If it’s OK for you to be enthralled with Love and Hip Hop, R&B Divas, Married To Medicine, and all the other crap that is shown on a weekly basis that makes Black folks look like idiots, why can't I laugh at this video?

I've seen some people say, "If a White person had made this video we would be marching up and down the streets". That may be true, but I also say if Dave Chappelle had made this video we would all be on the floor crying laughing and reposting and retweeting the link until it went viral.

I truthfully don’t think Black people are as offended by it as they say they are. I think it’s just indicative of how many Black people still worry about how White folks see us. They’re worried that a White person might see the video and think something negative about Black people. NEWSFLASH: White people who think negatively about Black people were already doing so, this video didn’t create any new negative thinkers. Just like a video depicting Black folks in a positive light wouldn’t convert anyone who thinks negatively about Black people. It’s also a response to Russell Simmons going so hard at Don Lemon for his idiotic ass comments and then allowing this to be posted to his site. I’m sorry but I can't help but to think that the outrage is disingenuous.

Black people have a tendency to deify our prominent historical figures, which is peculiar seeing how much Black folks love them some church. I'm pretty sure the bible says something about there only being one God, and you would think Black people would know that as much as people quote scripture on Facebook and Twitter. Yet, Dr. King, President Obama, Harriet Tubman and a few others have still managed to make it to "God" status. Harriet Tubman was a person, a supremely extraordinary person, but a person nonetheless.

Just like Harriet said, she freed thousands of slaves and she could have freed more had they known they were slaves. Don’t be a slave to group think. Don't allow your outrage to come from the fact that everybody else is outraged. I personally wasn’t offended by the video because I saw it as an attempt at comedy and I refuse to allow the masses to make me change my sensibilities because somebody doesn't know how to take a joke.

That's my take on it. I could be wrong...but I doubt it.

Good Old Bill Cosby

Hmph... I see Good Old Bill Cosby is pandering to get himself into massah's good graces again. I don't disagree with everything he said in the latest "Black folks have to do better" rant that has been attributed to him. But he left out quite a few other contributing factors to the plight of Black people in America, especially as it pertains to education. He doesn't talk about the lack of funding for resources that aren't being channeled to inner city schools (that they blame on lack of census data), or racially biased standardized testing, or the school to prison pipeline. He dare not speak on "white privilege" or the fact that teachers who teach in suburban districts make far more than those who teach in the inner city.

 I agree that it is past time for us to stop "Blaming the White Man"; but only for the things that "The White Man" doesn't deserve blame for. We can't pretend that America, in its current state, and with its ugly history aren't partially to blame for the socioeconomic disparities between Black and Brown people and White people here.

Look around you. Look at yourself and your friends and family who get up at the crack of dawn everyday and bust their ass to make a living for their families. Look at how they do everything they can to make upstanding citizens out of their children. Then look at where they still are; toiling at the bottom of someone's corporate ladder despite going back to school to get more and more degrees to appease society's need for documentation of commitment.

Don't you find it peculiar that everyone keeps saying that the playing field has been leveled but you and your team can't seem to get out of your own end-zone? If it were simply a matter of wanting better and doing better, I have no doubt that the vast majority of us would have already reached the promised land. Don't be fooled into thinking that it's just that easy. There are any number of systematic obstacles both old and new in place to keep you backed up against your own goal-line. Sure, there are some who have managed to traverse the obstacle course. But the problem lies in them making it across mid-field then never looking back to make a block for those left behind.  So it's not just the poor and uneducated that need to do better. Those that have experienced some level of success need to do better as well.

Guys Just Want to have Fun

I've heard it said that women don't like for men to have fun. I have even experienced what seemed
like behavior to validate this assertion before. What is it about men having fun that seems to not sit well with women? Is it the notion that men can't have fun unless there are women around, specifically women other then their woman? Do women secretly want to be their man's "mother"? What do you think about curfews in
relationships/marriage? What do you consider a "decent" time of night for your man to come home after hanging out with the guys? What can happen at 4am that can't happen at 11pm?

The reason I'm asking is that men respond to logic. The overused buzzwords like childish,
immature, irresponsible and disrespectful get tuned out because we've heard them over and over
again. If women are going to be so dead set for or against an action then they need to present a
logical explanation as to why it is either right or wrong. Simply adding a "label" to a behavior
doesn't resonate with men. Tell us in real words why it's unacceptable and watch the behavior
change. I'm not trying to make women seem silly or petty. I'm simply saying, think about why the
things that bother you, bother you. Then make a truthful declaration to your man about it and watch him change the behavior. If it's, "I believe you get horny around 3 in the morning and when you are drunk and horny I don't know if you will remain faithful", then say that. Or whatever it is, say it. I've been married going on 15 years. When I'm going to hang out with certain friends, my wife says, "OK, I'll see you tomorrow.". Because She knows I'm probably not going to come in that night and she isn't going to feel like coming to pick me up at 5am. If all of the bills are paid and all of the household duties are taken care of, how it that being irresponsible? Here's where you say, "Because it just is". and that's when men tune out. I"m just saying. I'm not trying to debate you, I'm trying to put you up on game.